Christmas for our family has always been about spending time with friends and family, celebrating American traditions like decking the halls and singing carols, giving gifts and general spreading the love. Shawn and I are not religious, in fact not Christians, and have not felt like our boys were old enough to understand religion quite yet so we've only touched on the subject as we've deemed appropriate... in bits and pieces.
This year, my mom decided that the boys needed to learn about her Christian heritage and her reasons for the season. She wanted to share the story of Jesus and St. Nick so the boys would understand that side of her. Today the boys received an advent calendar that had a daily treat (in the form of chocolate), a Precious Moments nativity set and some books on the "First Christmas" (not the pagan version but the Christian version) and St. Nicholas ("the original Santa Claus") from her.
Shawn and I took advantage of this opportunity to dip a little deeper into the religion conversation to help our boys understand some of our differences and give them more to think about. Our stand has always been that we want them to be tolerant of everyone's beliefs, not ignorant of the differences between the religions, understand where religions come from and why, while allowing them to choose what, if anything, they'd like to put their faith in. We feel it'll mean more to them to come into their faith, if any, on their own... rather than be forced to believe what we do, or what their grandparents do. We want them to question, ponder and eventually decide on their own when they're old enough to fully comprehend what religions, god(s) and dogma really is. Our role is to help them gather information and answer questions that we can, as well as help them find answer to the questions we can't answer.
Anyway, our conversation tonight was about the Christian religion and the background of some of the traditions and songs that our culture has adopted. We pointed out that a lot of the carols that we hear during the Holiday season have Christian backgrounds. One example was the song "Do You Hear What I Hear?".
We've frequently sang this song and it's a favorite of the boys because they like to shout the answer to the questions in the song. For example:
"Do you hear what I hear?" ~ the boys shout "A SONG!"
"Do you know what I know?" ~ they shout "A CHILD!"
You get the point...
Tonight, Gavin was feeling a little silly and completely not interested in the religion conversation we were having (though Tyler did seem to put a lot of thought into the whole thing). Gavin made up his own verse:
"Do you smell what I smell?" ~ to which he shouted "A FART!"
.... and promptly burst into an uncontrollable laughter that was so contagious we were all in almost tears by the time dinner was finished.
I s'pose we'll have to pick up that conversation later...
13 comments:
Hahahaha! Oh, that's classic.
Well, gee! That was quite a conversation! :)
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You know, I remember getting the advent calendar with the chocolates, which I never took to be religous at all. I thought it was just sort of a placebo thing for Xmas. Of course, I never really saw Xmas as a religious holiday either. Didn't find out (in any serious way) about that stuff till I think I was nearing middle school, mainly because I changed schools and the new school had chapel. It's good that your lads can get educated in the world of spirituality early on. Hopefully it will allow them to make the choices that suit them best, or possibly to realize you don't have to make a choice if you don't want to.
just my two...well more like two dollars than cents.
Those are the family suppers that they will remember! Little boys...;)
I think it is good what you and Shawn are doing in the way of explaining religion.
Boys...
We got chocolate advent calendars this year, which are really helpful in getting the girls moving in the morning.
Hilarious.
That is FUNNY! Little boys and farts--what a combination:)
I give you credit for having courage to expose your kids to beliefs that you don't necessarily share. That is not easy.
What a great, open-minded way to go about things. My son is only 1 so we haven't had to get into all the religious-y stuff yet but will eventually.
And I agree with Green Girl, that takes a lot of courage to allow them to be exposed to views that are not your own. You're to be admired.
Aww, boys!
I don't think boys grow out of their obsession with bodily functions-it's fun to hear your families conversations and how they differ from ours with three girls!
We're pretty much on opposite ends of the spectrum on our philosophies about spiritual things-but that keeps life interesting, right? Thanks for sharing!
Okay so the StraMont is my work email-forgot I was logged in as that when I commented...whoops!
Lori
If all parents were this open minded and encouraged their kids to actually think, the world would be a very different place. Good for you!
xo
R
also - fart humor is always funny
Boys! Ha!
I think your approach to religion with your boys is fantastic. In my view, religion should be all about exploration and feeling free to both question and to seek answers outside of the box. WTG, mom and dad. :)
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